30 Day Challenge: Practice in Public
Every week, my partner and I recap what happened the previous week and talk about how we want to learn and grow. We go through an acronym: GLAD — Gratitude, Learning, Accomplishment, Delighted and list out one of each. This past week I had set her a challenge when she was exploring San Diego. Whenever I’m in a city, I tend to go to the highest place I can find, go down to the water, head to a bookstore/thrift shop, check out a coffeeshop/bakery and do things that I can only do there (often that’s a museum for me).
I gave her the challenge of making a new local friend, doing something she could only do in San Diego, and going out dancing. She’s super competitive so I’m happy to say that she got all of those done in 24 hours.
So this week, my partner and I set up a challenge for each other for the month. I’ve always talked endlessly how writing is incredibly cathartic + helpful for me. Not only does it get my creative juices going, but the more I write, the more I tend to grow and understand my purpose, my desires in life and whatnot. So she set the challenge of writing daily for the next month.
We’re supposed to hold each other accountable to make sure we’re writing at least 100 words each day. This is my public accountability + opportunity to talk about these kind of habits.
I really appreciate this kind of process. In a healthy relationship, the two of you create an environment where you can be the best possible person. I’m really grateful to have someone in my life that does that for me.
I’ve learned over time that in order to follow through on a complex task or habit, one has to build a system. Humans are soft pudgy creatures that will flake at the measliest excuse — therefore you cannot trust skill alone. We rise to the level of our greatness and fall to the level of our systems. Like Theodore Roosevelt, in order to tackle this kind of problem, I have to approach it with intensity and set up a system of operation that works to my schedule.
Laying it out in a calendar helps. Setting up a specific time to work, tying it into another enjoyable activity, having an accountability partner… all of this is covered in Atomic Habits by James Clear.
The other key idea is to have an overarching objective that you’re shooting for. So if this is a bit of rambling, I expect that this kind of writing will eventually lead me to my goal of writing an overview of my philosophy of company building, what Spira is aiming to create and how that ties into the life I want to build (and the other projects I want to work on).
Writing is freedom and it delights me daily when I have the opportunity and joy of having my thoughts transform a blank page into something worthwhile. Can’t wait to share more.